Your Instincts Over Algorithms

Imagine Googling something at 2 am with one eye open while bouncing a fussy baby, desperate for an answer (or a miracle). Or scrolled endlessly through Instagram or parenting groups, trying to figure out what on earth is normal.

Now, don’t get me wrong—information is powerful. And it’s wonderful that we live in a time where you can access SO much with just a few taps. But here’s the truth: when it comes to birth and life with a newborn, not all support is created equal. And sometimes, the constant noise of the internet can drown out something really important—your own voice. Let’s talk about why all this searching might be leaving you more confused than confident—and what kind of support actually helps.

1. Too Many Answers, Not Enough YOU

The internet is packed with advice. Some of it is great. A lot of it contradicts itself. And almost none of it knows you, your baby, your body, or your unique situation. You might see:

• “Never wake a sleeping baby!”
• “Always wake to feed every 2 hours!”
• “Sleep training saved my life!”
• “Sleep training is traumatic!” Cool cool cool. So… now what? That’s the thing. Google and social media give you answers, but they don’t give you wisdom. They don’t filter advice through your values, your instincts, or your lived reality.

2. You Have Inner Wisdom (Even if You Forget Sometimes)

It’s easy to forget, but you were made for this. You have instincts—real, valid, powerful ones. In fact, most new parents don’t need to be told what to do as much as they need someone to remind them: you already know more than you think. But here’s the problem. When you’re anxious or sleep-deprived (or both), it’s harder to tune in to that inner knowing. Add a million opinions from strangers on the internet, and poof! Intuition gets buried under a pile of conflicting TikToks.

3. Birth and Baby Care Are About Relationships, Not Checklists

Here’s something those “10 Things Every Parent Must Do” lists don’t tell you: parenting is a relationship. It’s not a formula or a one-size-fits-all program. It's a slow dance you learn over time, with lots of awkward stepping on toes in the beginning. Your baby isn’t a machine with settings. They’re a person, and so are you. Your connection, your communication, and your capacity to learn from each other are what matter most. You won’t figure it all out in a night—or with a Google doc.

4. What You Actually Need Is Personal Support

This is where doulas come in. A doula isn’t a replacement for your instincts—they’re your guide back to them. We help you sort through the noise and tune into what feels right for you. We get to know you, so our support is specific, gentle, and tailored—not generic. Whether it's helping you prepare for birth, navigate those early newborn days, or just telling you that YES, it’s okay to cry while holding a crying baby—our role is to remind you: You’ve got this. (And when you’re not sure if you do got this? We’re right there with you, helping you find your footing.)

5. Normalize, Don’t Pathologize

One of the trickiest things about relying on social media or search engines is that they often make totally normal experiences feel like problems that need fixing. Your baby wants to be held all the time? Normal. You’re not sure what day it is, and you’ve cried three times today. Also normal. Breastfeeding hurts a little at first? Yep, still normal (and fixable, with support). A good doula helps you feel seen, heard, and _okay, _even when things are messy.

You Don’t Need Perfect Answers. You Need a Person.

Someone in your corner. Someone who knows how to say, “You’re doing great,” and mean it. Someone who can remind you that this isn’t a test, and there is no single right way. The internet has information. A doula offers connection. And in a season as vulnerable and transformative as birth and new parenthood, connection is everything. So, yes, keep using your tools, but don’t forget: the most reliable source of wisdom is that it’s you. Let’s help you remember that.